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Call for application to join the Beyond 2015 African Steering Committee

In order to well coordinate Beyond 2015 member organizations across Africa to advocate around a same and shared position, to ensure that their voices are heard and taken forward by leaders across the continent and globally, we have decided to create a Steering Committee for the region.

The African Steering Committee (ASC) aims at encouraging all African CSOs to reach without delay an official internal position on the post-2015 agenda (and a set of proposals that include the desired outcomes), and to engage with their constituencies to define a common civil society position regarding the post-2015 global agenda, in advance of the official UN-led process.

To ensure a fair and transparent process and to open this opportunity to all Beyond 2015 members, we would like to make a call for application to join the ASC.

The ASC members will be appointed through a competitive process based on the following criteria:
• Engagement in Beyond 2015 activities.
• Involvement in post-2015 processes at both national and regional levels.
• Ability to represent the opinions and perspectives of a wider constituency, and able to feedback to partners and constituencies; and/or mandate to represent own organization or network.
• Ability to devote 4 hours per week to B2015, provide feedback within tight deadlines and join the ASC monthly meetings on Skype.


Kindly send your expression of interest along with your CV by 9 am GMT 22 May 2014 to bide@uwasnet.org and balkissaide@gail.com.

Note: More details in the attached Terms of Reference.  African Steering Commitee ToR – Beyond2015

 
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Posted by on May 14, 2014 in Job Openings

 

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Exciting Careers at Box and Cedar

Box and Cedar – Our client is an Insurance Plc in her continuing strive to being a world class organization is looking for suitable candidates to fill the following positions:

Company Secretary/Legal Adviser

Responsibilities

  • Preparing for and sitting in on board meetings
  • Communicating board decisions to the relevant
  • company stakeholders
  • Managing the sourcing of and liaising with external legal services.

Requirements

  • LLB, BL (a Master degree will be an added advantage)
  • At least ten years company secretarial experience five in a public quoted company

Send resume to ins1@boxandcedar.com

Head – Accounts

 Responsibilities

  • Leads cash management transactions, including tracking objectives.
  • Prepares detailed financial budgets and forecasts
  • Implements and operates systems and procedures to ensure the integrity of accounting information.

Requirements

  • Good university degree, ACCA /ICAN
  • Minimum eight years’ experience, three in a senior position
  • Working knowledge of cash-flow forecasting

Send resume to ins2@boxandcedar.com

Head – Claims

Responsibilities

  • Computes settlement offer, claims report and analysis
  • Checks claim is fully recoverable with the policy terms and conditions.
  • Liaises with, engineers, lawyers, loss adjusters, third party administrators, etc.

Requirements

  • Good university degree and an MBA is an added advantage
  • Minimum of eight years relevant experience in Claims Settlement
  • ACIIN, CIIN

Send resume to ins3@boxandcedar.com

Head – Underwriting

Responsibilities

  • Overseas and monitors underwriting functions of the company
  • Analyses risk and determines underwriting terms and conditions of cover
  • Ensures uniformity in the preparation of policies, certificates and endorsements issued by the company and submits underwriting quarterly reports to NAICOM.

Requirements

  • Good university degree, ACtiN, ANIM and an MBA is an added advantage
  • Minimum eight years relevant experience, three in a senior position in underwriting

Send resume to ins4@boxandcedar.com

Head – Reinsurance

Responsibilities

  • Arranges Reinsurance Programmes/Placement
  • Prepares and renders quarterly Reinsurance Treaty & technical/adjustment Account
  • Prepares Reinsurance Dept. monthly, quarterly, half yearly and Annual report for Management’s review.

Requirements

  • A good university degree, CIIN
  • At least ten years experience in re-insurance

Send resume to ins5@boxandcedar.com

Business Development Manager – Retail

Responsibilities

  • Lead client sourcing in assigned business secto
  • Lead, build and maintain a detailed accurate, up-to-date customer knowledge base
  • Develop commercial viable routes of benefit to client and company Monitor competitor activities and emulate marketing campaigns

Requirements

  • Good university degree, an MBA is an added advantage
  • Minimum of 10 years experience in a business development capacity

Send resume to ins6@boxandcedar.com

Business Development Manager – Oil & Gas

 Responsibilities

  • Drives bidding process in oil and gas business
  • Manage relationships of stakeholders in oil and gas business
  • Develops a comprehensive and aligned business development plan.

Requirements

  • 7 years’ post NYSC experience
  • 3 years experience in IFRS financial reporting environment
  • Experience/Knowledge in Upstream Oil & Gas business

Send resume to ins7@boxandcedar.com

Talent & Learning Management Specialist

Responsibilities

  • Design, improve and implement effective talent management processes
  • Design and develop sustainable succession pipeline
  • Put in place, communicate and monitor KPIs to conduct analyses of current and proposed talent management initiatives.

Requirements

  • A good University degree, CIPD/CIPM would be a strong advantage
  • Minimum of six years’ experience with at least five in a similar role

Send resume to ins8@boxandcedar.com

HR Business Partners

 Responsibilities

  • Equip Line Managers with appropriate tools and knowledge to manage their people
  • Identify short, medium and long term resourcing issues.
  • Challenge line managers on new roles, replacement and retention strategies.

Requirements

  • A good University degree with C1PD/CIPM
  • A minimum of five years experience in a similar role

Send resume to ins9@boxandcedar.com

Business Analyst

 Responsibilities

  • Leads the group business intelligence
  • Develop required report from business application for executive informed decision
  • Assessing the economic performance of subsidiaries and giving detailed analysis.

Requirements

  • A good university degree or Computer Science with flair for business intelligence
  • An MBA is an added advantage
  • Minimum of five years experience with two years in a similar role

Send resume to ins10@boxandcedar.com

Marketing Executives

Responsibilities

  • Client sourcing: develop new client and maintain existing relationships sales calls, correspondence, etc
  • Build and maintain a detailed accurate, up-to-date customer/client knowledge base
  • Identify commercial viable routes of benefit to client and company.

Requirements

  • A good University degree and minimum of 5 years experience in a similar role

Send resume to ins11@boxandcedar.com

Method of Application

Send resume to email address under preferred job then go to www.boxandcedar.org to Register and Apply online. Closing Date: 26th May, 2014 For further information go to www.boxandcedar.org Please note that only short-listed candidates will be
contacted and contact will be only by email.

 
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Posted by on May 14, 2014 in Job Openings

 

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Third UN World Conference on Disaster Risk Reduction: registration and accreditation now open


The Third UN World Conference on Disaster Risk Reduction to be held from 14 to 18 March 2015 in Sendai City, Japan will be preceded by two Intergovernmental preparatory meetings (PrepComs):

·       PrepCom1: 14-15 July 2014, Geneva, Switzerland
·       PrepCom2: 17-18 November 2014, Geneva, Switzerland

In accordance with the UN General Assembly resolution 68/211, the registration and accreditation for participation in the World Conference and its Preparatory Committee meetings is now open. Please consult the following links for more information:

·       Registration for Member States:  http://www.wcdrr.org/states


·       Registration for UN and IGOs:  http://www.wcdrr.org/un


·       Pre-registration and accreditation for NGOs and other Major Groups:  http://www.wcdrr.org/majorgroups


Kind regards,

The United Nations Office for Disaster Risk Reduction

More on WCDRR: http://www.wcdrr.org

 
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Posted by on May 9, 2014 in News

 

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Investment Analyst – Health and Education at International Finance Corporation (IFC)

The International Finance Corporation (IFC), the private sector arm of the World Bank Group, is a global investor and advisor committed to promoting projects in its developing member countries that are economically beneficial, financially and commercially sound, and environmentally and socially sustainable. IFC finances private sector investments, mobilizes capital in the international financial markets, helps clients improve social and environmental sustainability, and provides technical assistance and advice to governments and businesses in the developing world.

The Health and Education sector team is recruiting an Investment Analyst to be based in either its Nairobi/Lagos/Dakar office. The Investment Analyst will report to the IFC sector lead for Health and Education who is responsible for business development, project design, negotiation and subsequent supervision of the Corporation’s investment projects in the Health and Education sectors in Sub Saharan Africa. The primary responsibilities and overall profile required for this position are as given below:

Investment Analyst – Health & Education

 

Job #: 140490
Location: Lagos, Nigeria
Job Stream: Agriculture & Rural Development

Duties and Accountabilities

  •     Conducting industry and market research and assisting IFC’s business development and portfolio management efforts in the Health and Education sectors in Sub Saharan Africa;
  •     Analyze and appraise all aspects of new investment proposals including financial, operational, commercial, legal, corporate governance, and environmental and social sustainability elements; and prepare investment recommendations where appropriate;
  •     Develop financial models and robust technical analyses to support credit decisions. Design products and structure potential IFC debt, equity, and quasi-equity investments;
  •     Actively participate in the structuring, negotiating and execution of deals in a leading or supporting role;
  •     Prepare investment review materials and presentation to investment committee to obtain approval. Negotiate in coordination with internal and external legal advisors the legal agreements and documentations of the transaction;
  •     Establish and maintain relationships with existing clients to ensure responsive client service and enhance new business opportunities and support portfolio supervision process including quarterly reviews;
  •     Preparation of quarterly supervision reports and periodic reviews of financial and other reports from clients. Track compliance of portfolio clients with reporting requirements, including monitoring the flow of financial statements and other reports, monitor development results; aggregate and analyze portfolio information data; coordinate communications with the necessary departments; monitor client compliance with their legal agreement with IFC. Propose courses of action in the event of non-compliance; Travel to visit and supervise investments in portfolio companies; and
  •     Identify and evaluate opportunities to increase the social development impact of new or portfolio projects.

Selection Criteria

  •     A bachelor degree or equivalent professional qualification/ experience.
  •     Strong analytical and conceptual skills and experience with managing, synthesizing, summarizing and presenting data.
  •     Investment experience in Sub Saharan Africa is preferred.
  •     Team player with strong communication and interpersonal skills and ability to develop effective relationships within and outside IFC.
  •     Strong research and quantitative skills, with preference for a background in financial analysis and modeling.
  •     Strong client service orientation with openness to feedback and new ideas.
  •     Advanced excel skills and power point skills.
  •     Exceptional attention to detail.
  •     Ability to work flexibly on a range of assignments, cope with shifting priorities at short notice, and still deliver top quality work while meeting tight deadlines.
  •     Takes personal responsibility and accountability for timely response to client queries, requests or needs, working to remove obstacles that may impede execution or overall success.
  •     Excellent written and oral communications skills in English.
  •     Ability to work sensitively and effectively in a multicultural setting.

 

Method of Application

Interested and qualified candidates should click here to apply online.

Note: If the selected candidate is a current Bank Group staff member with a Regular or Open-Ended appointment, s/he will retain his/her Regular or Open-Ended appointment. All others will be offered a 2 year term appointment

 

 
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Posted by on May 8, 2014 in Job Openings

 

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Urgent Jobs at Unilever

Vacancy for Electrician Technician at Unilever

Electrical Technician

 Location          Ogun

Main Accountabilities

  • Is responsible for in line production quality
  • Handles all electrical jobs with safety as and when delegated by the team leader
  • Maintains logbook of all electrical maintenance jobs
  • Maintains safe working atmosphere of the equipment and co workers and contributes to hazard reporting process of the factory
  • Submits daily maintenance and breakdown reports
  • Follows the spare part management procedure
  • Is responsible for maintenance and troubleshooting of the line equipment
  • Supports shift duty electrician
  • Participates in Plant Maintenance meetings
  • Implements continuous improvements assignments
  • Observes and maintains TPM principles in the line covering the operations all the time
  • Maintains highest quality standards, ensures safe working practices and care for environment through compliance with the guidelines set up in Company Quality, Health & Safety, Environment, customer service and consumer safety policies of Unilever Nigeria
  • To support the Project Implementation
Relevant Experience
  • National Diploma in Electrical & Electronics Engineering
  • Team work
  • Good communication skills
  • 3 – 5years experience in similar operations
  • Oral Processing & Packing Equipments experience is preferred

Method of Application

To apply, click here

 
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Posted by on May 6, 2014 in Job Openings

 

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Latest Recruitments at Society for Family Health (SFH)

Society for Family Health (SFH) is one of the leading public health NGOs in Nigeria, implementing programmes in reproductive health, HIV and AIDS prevention,and maternal and childhealth. SFH works in partnership with the Federal and State Government of Nigeria, the British Department for International Development (DFID) and the United States Agency for International Development (USAID) among other international donors.

We seek to recruit qualified persons as a result of growth in our organisation. We offer professionals opportunities for career advancement, a good working environment and competitive remuneration. We require competent candidates for the following positions:

Head, Maternal and Neonatal Health

 Project (based in Abuja)

Ref email: Hgates@sfhnigeria.org

Job Profile

  • This is a Deputy Director position. Reporting to the Chief Programme Officer, the candidate will be responsible for the overall implementation of Maternal and New-born Health Improvement project starting in Gombe state.
  • S/He will lead coordination and management of the entire project and will be based in Abuja.
  • The person will also focus on managing the relationships between SFH, other development partners, consultants, sub-contractors and the Government (including FMOH), representing the project in the national arena, and ensuring that the project receives appropriate technical assistance

Qualifications/Experience:

  • Must possess a Medical or Nursing Degree and a post-graduate degree in a related programme area (Population studies, Public Health or Social Work).
  • Must possess a minimum of twelve (12) years post NYSC working experience, the past five (5) of which must preferably be at senior management level.
  • Must possess high level of integrity.
  • Must have proven experience, working with consortium partners and delivering services within a collegiate system.
  • Must have experience in knowledge improvement for various cadres of health workers.
  • Must be familiar working within a donor community.
  • Good interpersonal, communication, presentation and report writing skills are very important to this
  • position.

Assistant Manager/Business Advisor (AHME)

 Ref email: ambizadvisorkd@sfhnigeria.org


Job Profile:

  • This position will report to the Senior Manager of the African Health Markets for Equity (AHME)
  • Thesuccessful candidate will plan, execute and finalize projects of the Medical Credit Fund (MCF) according to strict deadlines and within budget.
  • S/He will drive the detailed activities and oversee quality control of MCF plans.
  • S/He will assess potential clinics for the MCF and responsible for developing expert opinion and provide technical support to the members in the quality improvement process of the MCF programme by assisting in developing business plans as well as monitoring the implementation.
  • In addition, the successful candidate will oversee the loan application, approval and disbursement processes, prepare and facilitate training on business development for participating facilities and contribute to the preparation of quarterly and annual progress reports of the project.
  • S/He will liaisewith the MCF Country Coordinator on business plans on a regular basis.

Qualifications/Experience:

  • Must possess a first degree in Business Administration, Management or Social Sciences; a Masters Degree or MBA in any related discipline will be of added advantage.
  • Minimum of 5 years post NYSC experience in the health sector or working with an NGO in health related fields, or a microfinance institution.
  • Must display strong commitment for health development in Nigeria.
  • Must have good financial, analytical and planning skills
  • Understanding of Microsoft Packages especially Word and Spreadsheets is essential to thisposition.
  • Experience in planning and facilitation of training and coaching sessions for different service providers, especially in financial literacy and business administration.
  • Must have good oral, analytical, interpretive and written comprehension skills, and willingness to train.

Procurement Manager

Ref email to: procurmgrabj@sfhnigeria.org

Job Profile:

  • This is a manager position. Reporting to the Director of Procurement, the successful candidate will have theresponsibility of ensuring efficient procurement of non-health goods and services.
  • S/He willimplement a quality assurance system for procured goods and services and ensure regulatory compliance where necessary.
  • S/He will also generate routine reports on procurement progress against plans, and supervise procurement logistics.

Qualifications/Experience:

  • Must possess a first degree in a relevant field
  • Must be CIPSN/CIPS certified
  • Must possess a minimum of eight (8) years of demonstrated experience in purchasing and supply/procurement function, five (5) of which must have been in a similar capacity.
  • Hands-on experience in the use of SAP ERP or any Enterprise Resource and Planning package for procurement business solutions will be of added advantage.
  • Must be versatile in Microsoft Excel and/or Access packages
  • Must possess good analytical, interpersonal and communication skills.

Deputy Manager – Procurement

  • Job Type                           Full Time
  • Min Qualification              BA/BSc/HND
  • Experience                       6 years
  • Location                           Abuja
  • Job Field                          Procurement/Store-Keeping

Ref email to: dmprocurabj@sfhnigeria.org

Job Profile:

  • Reporting to the Senior Manager, Ethical/Health Procurement, the successful candidate will be responsible for generating procurement solicitation documents, evaluation of tenders and bids received for competitive processes for health commodities locally and internationally.
  • S/He will be required to also generate purchase ordersfollowing the tendering process.
  • S/He will be responsible for contracting vendors for services.
  • The successfulcandidate will be responsible for ensuring adequate documentation of procurement processes and easy retrievalby all relevant personnel.
  • S/He will ensure proper management of vendors to ensure quality and efficiency in delivery of goods and services.

Qualifications/Experience:

  • Must possess a first degree in a relevant field
  • Must be CIPSN/CIPS certified
  • Must possess a minimum of six (6) years of demonstrated experience in purchasing and supply/procurement
  • function three (3) of which must have been in a similar capacity.
  • Hands-on experience in the use of SAP ERP for procurement business solutions will be of added advantage.
  • Must be literate and versatile in Microsoft,
  • Excel and or Access packages
  • Must possess good analytical and interpersonal skills.

Front Desk Officer

  • Job Type                       Full Time
  • Min Qualification          BA/BSc/HND
  • Experience                   1 year
  • Location                       Abuja
  • Job Field                       Administration

Ref email: frontdeskabj@sfhnigeria.org

Job Profile

  • This is an Officer position reporting to the Manager, Administration.
  • The successful candidate will be responsible for the overall management of the front office which includes effective handling and documentation of incoming/outgoing mails, telephone, communication and visitors’ management.
  • In addition s/he will ensure that the reception area is professionally organised and will maintain records ofconference room reservations and meetings.
  • The successful candidate will also assist the logistics team in the head office on ticketing, hotel accommodation and travel arrangements.

Qualifications/Experience:

  • Must possess a B.Sc/HND in Social or Management Sciences.
  • Must possess a minimum of one (1) year post-NYSC experience, preferably working in an NGO in a similar capacity.
  • Must have excellent management and organisationalskills, must understand and show respect forlocal customs and culture and must possess excellent multi-tasking and organisational skills.
  • Must possess excellent oral, communication and interpersonal skills.
  • Must possess appreciable skills in computer knowledge and application.
  • Must possess a high level of integrity.
  • Good personal appearance and disposition.

Senior Officers – Moniroting & Evaluation

  • Job Type                       Full Time
  • Min Qualification          BA/BSc/HND
  • Experience                   3 years
  • Location                       Abia, Enugu
  • Job Field                      Administration

Ref email to: Enugu: soffmeenugu2@sfhnigeria.org; Abia: soffmeabia@sfhnigeria.org;

Job Profile:

  • Reporting to the Territorial Manager at the State level and Deputy Manager M&E at the HQ, the desired candidates will ensure that routine tracking, data collection and documentation are utilized to showcase progress on success of project indicators and interventions.
  • S/He will ensure that data collected from state level implementation are collated and entered expeditiously in the web-based DHIS; and summaries included in all field activity quarterly report submissions.
  • S/He will also, oversee the tracking, analysing and reporting of dataon the various components of SFH territorial programmes.
  • The successful candidate will equally track project performance indicator data related to relevant states, and disseminate M&E data and information regularly to stakeholders.
  • S/He will be required to build the capacity of SFH project partner organisations, CSOs/CBOs and other stakeholders to implement M&E. S/He will take the lead in implementing SFH and National surveys in the States.
  • S/He must be able to analyse datasets to provide data to inform programme decisions.

Qualifications/Experience:

  • Must possess a first degree in Sciences/Medical/Behavioural/Social Sciences or its equivalent in a relevantfield.
  • Must have minimum of 3 years experience in implementing monitoring and evaluation of health and related
    programmes.
  • Must have considerable expertise in mixed methods (qualitative and quantitative) M&E and research.
  • S/He must possess ability to analyse and interpretboth quantitative and qualitative data to inform programming.
  • Must have intermediate knowledge of SPSS or STATA or Epi Info/CS Pro.
  • Knowledge of DHIS, MS Access or other compatible database software will be of added advantage.
  • Experience with conducting monitoring visits utilising checklist and other tools, including ability to developM&E tools as needed, and experience with government partners will be important to this position.

Method of Application

The compensation package for these positions is very attractive and designed to attract, motivate and retain talented candidates.

A one page application letter (using the position reference as subject), addressed to the Deputy Director-HR, clearly providing evidence of competences required for the job, current remuneration, as well as a comprehensive Curriculum Vitae indicating clearly your valid telephone numbers, e-mail address and current contact address should be sent no later than two (2) weeks from date of this publication to the email address beside the job you are applying for.

– See more at: http://www.myjobmag.com/readjob/6895/jobs/latest-recruitments-at-society-for-family-health-sfh#sthash.6nuRiaU4.dpuf

 
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Posted by on May 6, 2014 in Job Openings

 

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6 Deadly Dating Mistakes You Must Avoid

by Dan Bacon

 

Mistake #1 – Being Too Nice

You’ll often hear women talking about how their looking for a “nice” guy to date and build a relationship with. Yet, most guys completely misunderstand what a woman is saying when she says “nice guy.” They mistakenly assume that if a woman is looking for a nice guy, then all they need to do to be successful is be REALLY, REALLY nice to her and that will make her like him a whole lot more than other guys. However, that isn’t what women are looking for and that isn’t what women mean by “nice.” After a couple of experiences being REALLY, REALLY nice to women and getting rejected each time, some guys start to think that women must want bad boys or jerks and that the whole “nice guy” thing is a huge, fat lie!

Here’s the thing…

It’s not a lie. Women’s desire for a nice guy is TRUE, but there is a huge difference between a manly, nice guy who guides a woman through a natural, sexual courtship (of which I call The Flow) and a nice guy who is a complete pushover, pretends as though he’s not even interested in sex (and just wants to be friends) and waits for the woman to make it really obvious that she wants something “more than friends” before he makes a move.

Sure, initially some women can enjoy having a pushover nice guy that she can lead around by his nose (or other parts of his body further to the south) and get him to do whatever she wants. Yet, in reality, a woman wants a man who will treat her well and with respect and most importantly, respect himself enough to not allow her to behave in a disrespectful manner towards him. She wants that guy who truly is a powerful man that she can lean on, trust, respect and lust after. She wants to be the one who is always on her toes trying to make sure that she doesn’t lose him. It’s not supposed to be the other way around. It is the you (the man) who is supposed to be “in charge” of a male/female relationship. You are a good guy, but you are ALSO a confident, masculine man…and that is exactly what she’s talking about when she says she wants a “nice guy.”

If you don’t understand that, then you are simply reading into the word “nice” too literally. Being a “nice guy” is not about being a super nice guy; it’s about being the complete package (you’ll learn how to be the “complete package” when you invest in our programs and get the education you need about women, dating, relationships, attraction and being a real man), while ALSO being a good guy.

Mistake #2 – Constantly Seeking Her Approval

Of course when you’re dating a woman, you will occasionally want to get her input on things you do as a couple but, in general, it’s up to the man to steer the dates and the relationship – not the woman. However, too many insecure guys will ask their lady’s “permission” on virtually everything. He’ll ask her where they should go out to dinner, what movie they should see, whether or not she likes what he’s wearing, how his apartment looks, how often they should see each other and so on.

In short, he acts as if she’s his mother and he is constantly seeking her approval. She wants a guy that she can look up to and respect, not look down upon as her little boy child.

Mistake #3 – Trying to Buy Her Affection

Sure, occasionally during your long-term relationship you might want to give your woman a gift on special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays and so forth. However, if you’re always buying her lavish gifts, taking her away on expensive vacations, going out to only the most exclusive clubs or restaurants or otherwise trying to “buy” her affection, then you are showing how insecure you are. She will pick up on it, wonder why you feel as though all of that is necessary to keep her attracted and interested. Although she might not tell you (because she’s enjoying the “red carpet treatment” so much), she will be turned off at a deep level.

Money shouldn’t play a major part in your dating life. It doesn’t matter if you have the money and can afford to spend it on her or not. The best “gift” you can give her is being yourself and spending time with her. You should be able to “entertain” her and keep her happy as much with a fun afternoon in the park or beach, watching TV or “fooling around” in the bedroom, as she would have getting all dolled up for an expensive night on the town. Heck, my girlfriends are so delighted to be spending time with me that many of them are happy to sit there and watch me play Xbox for hours. Most women HATE when a guy plays computer games in their presence because they feel like the guy is wasting time and not getting out there in the real world to become the best man he can be, but my girls put up with it because they know I work very hard. They also know that if they whinge and complain, I can replace them with another girl in a minute, so they are on their best behavior at all times. Additionally, while playing Xbox, all I have to say is, “Coffee” or smile and say, “Where’s my coffee, baby?” and it will be made for me with a big smile and a kiss.

Remember, YOU are her greatest gift! However, if you show her that you feel as if you need to constantly “buy her affection,” she’s eventually going to realize that she needs a man, not gifts, to make her truly happy. If you don’t value who you are, she won’t either. You are valuable to her whether you spend money on her or not. Don’t waste money and turn women off by making the mistake of trying to buy a woman’s affection. You are her greatest gift.

Mistake #4 – Constant Compliments

Of course when you pick a woman up for a date or watch her walk towards you at the designated meeting place, you’ll likely see how much effort she put into getting ready to be with you. You should tell her how hot she looks and, NO, that doesn’t give her any power over you. However, if you spend the rest of the date constantly complimenting her on her looks, her intelligence, her wit or any other attribute she has exhibited, you’re only showing how inexperienced you are by giving her all the power. When a woman sees this type of behavior from a man, she usually assumes that he’s giving her so many compliments and is so amazed because she is the first exceptional woman he’s had a chance with.

Sure, everyone likes the occasional, sincere compliment, but if you start spewing them constantly throughout your date, she’s going to feel like there is a huge value discrepancy between you and her and she’s basically doing you a favor by going out with you. When a guy notices that a woman has picked up on this, he then starts to act nervous and feels like he is losing her. The woman then notices that he is behaving nervously and she loses further interest. It’s a vicious cycle of insecurity and desperation that almost always lead to failure when dating women.

Mistake #5 – Asking Permission to Kiss Her

Imagine this…

You’ve been out on a great date with a beautiful woman. You’ve laughed together, enjoyed each other’s company and had wonderful conversations. Everything is going so well. She may have even leaned against you for a lingering moment or “accidentally” stroked you softly with her hand sometime during your date. Now that the evening is ending, you’re both moving in closer and speaking more quietly and intimately. Yet, instead of taking her into your arms and kissing her, you stop and ask for permission to kiss her! What?!

Not only have you KILLED the mood, but chances are she’s going to see that your reason for asking for a kiss is not so much about you being a “gentleman,” but more about the fact that you are a wuss when it comes to women. A woman expects you to be able to read her body language to see if she is ready to be kissed or not. If she is, she expects you to have the confidence to do it and if you don’t, she loses attraction, respect and interest for you on a deep level. As a man, you are expected to know when you should take her hand as you walk, stroke her back when you’re talking, rub your body against hers when dancing or any one of a dozen other ways of showing what a sexual being you are.

This isn’t the 1950s where boys asked girls for permission to give them a goodnight kiss at the doorstep. We’re in the 21st century and women are much more sexual and actually EXPECT that the man they’re dating is going go in for a first kiss and possibly even lead her to the bedroom without first asking her permission. If you don’t know how to escalate to kissing and sex, I recommend you watch Dating Power to see the demonstrations of our rejection-proof first kiss techniques.

Mistake #6 – Getting Too Serious Before She’s Earned it

You’ve been on a date or two and had a great time. You think about her all the time when you’re apart and you are already completely sure that you want her as your girlfriend, possibly even as your wife. However, if you’ve only been dating a short time and you blurt out how you’ve already decided that you want to “spend the rest of your life with her,” after only a couple of dates, one of several things is likely to happen. You’re going to scare her off, make a fool of yourself or give her the knowledge that she has you wrapped around her little finger and, again, you’ll show her how insecure you are and that SHE is the one who has the relationship power.

 

 

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INAUGURAL MEETING OF THE AFRICAN YOUTH ALLIANCE (AYAP) ON POST-2015

 

As the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs) winds down by 2015, it is a delight to know that discussions are already reaching a frightening peak given the myriad of developmental needs of the world; especially for the developing nations of Africa.  The African Youth Alliance (AYA), which is an alliance of young people from various networks with spread on the continent met for three days in Abuja, Nigeria between April 23rd and 25th, 2014 at the World Bank Office. Participants were from Kenya, Uganda, The Gambia, Ghana, Nigeria and the Africa Youth Panel, Demark.

Following deliberations at the meeting, the following were agreed upon –

  1. That the Millennium Development Goals despite the challenges and relative to past development programmes on the continent is a success story. There are evidences that there have been changes on the African continent in the areas where the goals are targeted. We are however concerned that none of the eight goals of the MDGs was youth specific like that on women.
  2. At the meeting, we expressed worries about the poor definition of youth participation by several stakeholders especially government institutions. The alliance submits that having young people attend meetings and deliberations at national, regional and international level is not the appropriate definition of participation as decisions are most times taken without their input. In essence, they are seen and not heard at these decision making tables.
  3. The alliance therefore decided that the most important issue which it will push relentlessly to be included in the post-2015 agenda is productive youth participation and influence especially at the phase of planning and decision making of policies. This would therefore be fed in to top areas of concern highlighted during the meeting – youth employment, quality and skilled education; security, justice and peace; open data and citizenry identification.
  4. That, the alliance also listened to country-specific experiences, My World Survey launched by the United Nations Millennium Campaign and partners, the African Youth Voices on Project and is impressed with the experience in Uganda where young people now have good representation in the country’s parliament which is presently at 35%.
  5. The alliance seeks ultimately to have a permanent forum on youth at the United Nations, whilst also agreeing that it has a lot to learn from the women movement that today has been able to push for 35% affirmative action.
  6. The alliance seeks to advocate for the removal of all existing barriers to inclusive active youth engagements (vulnerable groups and young people with disabilities) while also working on a buy in from other groups.
  7. The meeting reached a consensus that given the huge resources that young people are and their huge population on the continent, put at about 60%, it is no longer decent to argue that youth issues are cross-cutting without being specific. We also opine that it is no longer enough to simply have young people at pre-conferences. We argue passionately that young people should sit in the room and not the corridors; an even in the room, they should have a front seat with the decision makers and be allowed visibility at every stage including when deciding on signing bilateral agreements.
  8. That we have highlighted entry points to begin this onerous task and we will be proactive in mainstreaming youth voices into the 2016 agenda of the Africa Union.

For more information about the work of AYAP 2015, email AYAP Chair: Ibrahim.ceesay@africanyouthpanel.org or AYAP Co-Chair jamesani09@gmail.com 

 
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Posted by on May 6, 2014 in Career

 

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